Wednesday, October 29, 2025

Anger and hatred in Blacks is a choice of habits

 The “choice of anger” among some Black individuals who perceive themselves as victims of racism can be understood as a complex emotional and behavioral reaction rooted in repeated experiences of perceived injustice and systemic invalidation. This anger often serves as both a defensive and self-affirming response, reflecting an attempt to reclaim dignity and agency in the face of chronic discrimination [1][2].

Psychologically, anger can function as a protective emotion—transforming feelings of humiliation, powerlessness, or exclusion into empowerment or resistance. For some, anger arises reflexively when racism is perceived, not merely because of isolated incidents, but due to cumulative experiences that condition an automatic response, sometimes reinforced by shared historical memory and collective trauma [3].

Sociologically, this pattern can also be viewed through learned community responses—where anger becomes an expression of solidarity or a means of preserving self-respect in the face of oppression. However, while anger can serve as a motivator for social change, chronic anger without resolution or constructive outlets can lead to emotional exhaustion, interpersonal conflict, or internalized distress [4][5][6].

In essence, the “choice of anger” represents a multifaceted psychological reaction—a mixture of defense, protest, and self-validation—shaped by historical, cultural, and personal factors.

Sources

1 Transactional Analysis Counseling in Action (Counseling in Action series) Fourth Edition by Ian Stewart (Author)


2 Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. Paperback – August 27, 1996 by Eric Berne (Author)


3 Genogram with Transactional Analysis in Coaching: A Road Map for Counseling & Coaching - An intuitive visual approach to unlock your clients' self-awareness to achieve personal & professional growth Paperback – December 16, 2023 by Claudia Musicco (Author


4 Beyond Games and Scripts Hardcover – January 1, 1976 by Eric Berne (Author)


5 Scripts People Live: Transactional Analysis of Life Scripts Paperback – January 26, 1994 by Claude Steiner (Author)


6 Born To Win: Transactional Analysis With Gestalt Experiments Paperback – Illustrated, August 30, 1996 by Muriel James (Author), Dorothy Jongeward (Author)

In addition:

In Transactional Analysis (TA), the “choice of anger” and the concept of rackets help explain the emotional patterns that may emerge when individuals perceive themselves as victims of racism. A racket is a learned, habitual emotion—such as anger, guilt, or sadness—that a person substitutes for genuine feelings because that emotion was reinforced in their early life experience and social context. Over time, this becomes a predictable emotional response, often leading to familiar “payoffs” or confirmations of one’s life script [1][3].

For some Black individuals who experience racism, anger can become the default racket emotion. It represents both an authentic reaction to injustice and, at times, a conditioned response formed through repeated exposure to structural racism, invalidation, and collective trauma. This anger serves protective and restorative functions—asserting dignity, expressing pain, and resisting devaluation. In TA terms, it reflects a Child ego state response that has been reinforced through repeated Parent-Child messages around survival, strength, and self-respect [2][4].

However, not all Black individuals choose to respond with anger or with a sense of victimization. Some have internalized different life scripts—ones emphasizing autonomy, problem-solving, or transcendence of victimizing messages. These individuals may draw more heavily from the Adult ego state, assessing each incident of racism through rational appraisal rather than emotional reaction. Others maintain internal narratives that affirm personal power, faith, or resilience, thereby neutralizing the need for anger as a default response [5][6].

In summary:

  • Those who default to anger may be operating from long-established “racket systems” that convert hurt or fear into anger, yielding predictable payoffs such as a sense of control or moral legitimacy.
  • Those who do not default to anger may have re-scripted their emotional responses, using Adult ego states or constructive Parent messages to process racial experiences without cycling into victimization patterns.

Both responses—the presence or absence of anger—reflect distinct internalized scripts, ego state dynamics, and culturally shaped strategies for preserving self-worth within the context of systemic racism [1][4][5].

Sources

1 Transactional Analysis Counseling in Action (Counseling in Action series) Fourth Edition by Ian Stewart (Author)


2 Genogram with Transactional Analysis in Coaching: A Road Map for Counseling & Coaching - An intuitive visual approach to unlock your clients' self-awareness to achieve personal & professional growth Paperback – December 16, 2023 by Claudia Musicco (Author


3 Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. Paperback – August 27, 1996 by Eric Berne (Author)


4 Beyond Games and Scripts Hardcover – January 1, 1976 by Eric Berne (Author)


5 Scripts People Live: Transactional Analysis of Life Scripts Paperback – January 26, 1994 by Claude Steiner (Author)


6 Born To Win: Transactional Analysis With Gestalt Experiments Paperback – Illustrated, August 30, 1996 by Muriel James (Author), Dorothy Jongeward (Author)

Furthermore:

In Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis model, emotional patterns such as recurrent anger and the broader system of rackets are organized and maintained within the three ego‑state structures: the Parent, Adult, and Child. Each ego state carries distinctive internalized experiences, emotional memories, and patterns of response that interact to form enduring emotional habits [1][2].

1. The Parent Ego State
This state contains the recorded attitudes, rules, and emotional injunctions learned from authority figures—parents, teachers, elders, or community norms. For a person whose early models equated strength or survival with anger, the Parent ego state may reinforce this reaction as approved or even necessary when facing perceived threat or disrespect. Thus, anger becomes an introjected script directive—a rule such as “Never show weakness” or “Fight back to survive.” These internalized directives then feed recurring racket patterns when racism or injustice is perceived [3][4].

2. The Child Ego State
This state holds the authentic, spontaneous emotions of early life and also the learned responses formed through adaptation. When a child repeatedly experienced fear, powerlessness, or humiliation (for example, within a racially biased social environment), the genuine feelings of hurt or despair may have been transformed into a more acceptable racket emotion—typically anger. That substituted emotion becomes the “default response,” providing a sense of potency and predictability, even though it hides the deeper vulnerability. Over time this turns into a racket system: a habitual emotional cycle with a payoff such as regaining control, moral superiority, or maintaining self‑esteem [2][5].

3. The Adult Ego State
The Adult functions as a mediating processor of reality—assessing present information rather than relying on outdated emotional scripts. When operating effectively, the Adult evaluates whether anger fits the current situation or is a carry‑over from past hurt. By updating data and integrating reason with feeling, the Adult helps re‑evaluate the script payoffs and replace rigid racket cycles with authentic emotional expression and problem‑solving behavior [1][6].

Mapping Emotional Patterns Across the Structural Model

  • Parent: Source of injunctions (“Don’t be weak,” “Always fight for your rights”) that trigger the anger pattern.
  • Adult: Capacity for awareness and reality testing—can interrupt the automatic anger response.
  • Child: The internal origin of the genuine but masked feelings—hurt, fear, or sadness—that have been converted to the racket emotion of anger.

In this structural view, the anger that arises when one feels victimized by racism can be traced as follows:

  1. Parent provides the directive (“Do not tolerate injustice”).
  2. Child supplies the energy and remembered pain that converts to anger.
  3. Adult can evaluate whether the reaction is proportionate or stems from an outdated script.

Conversely, individuals who do not default to anger often maintain stronger Adult‑state regulation or have Parent and Child structures programmed with messages of efficacy, forgiveness, and resilience. Their emotional processing remains flexible, allowing genuine feeling without automatic escalation to racket cycles [3][4][5].

In summary, mapping emotional responses like anger within Berne’s structural model enables us to locate their origins (stored experiences and internalized messages) and understand their functions (emotional payoff, self‑protection, or communication style). Awareness of these mechanisms is the first step toward transforming rackets into authentic emotional autonomy and interpersonal effectiveness [1][2][6].

Sources

1 Transactional Analysis Counseling in Action (Counseling in Action series) Fourth Edition by Ian Stewart (Author)


2 Genogram with Transactional Analysis in Coaching: A Road Map for Counseling & Coaching - An intuitive visual approach to unlock your clients' self-awareness to achieve personal & professional growth Paperback – December 16, 2023 by Claudia Musicco (Author


3 Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy: A Systematic Individual and Social Psychiatry Hardcover – September 10, 2021 by Eric Berne (Author)


4 Beyond Games and Scripts Hardcover – January 1, 1976 by Eric Berne (Author)


5 Born To Win: Transactional Analysis With Gestalt Experiments Paperback – Illustrated, August 30, 1996 by Muriel James (Author), Dorothy Jongeward (Author)


6 Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. Paperback – August 27, 1996 by Eric Berne (Author)

Finally:

The complete emotion chain that appears when there is perceived racist victimization unfolds as a multi‑stage psychological progression from initial shock to chronic hostility. Each stage represents an attempt by the individual to process and defend against the perceived psychological and social threat posed by racism.

1. Shock and Disbelief – The chain begins with the perception of a racist act or unfair treatment. The initial response is often shock, confusion, or disbelief, reflecting the sudden appraisal that one’s worth or safety has been violated [1][3].

2. Hurt and Humiliation – As awareness of the incident settles in, the person experiences hurt, sadness, or humiliation. These are the authentic emotions connected to perceived rejection, exclusion, or devaluation of personal or group identity [2][5].

3. Fear or Anxiety – Following the hurt, there may be fear or anxiety—a sense of vulnerability and anticipation of further harm. This emotional response stems from the perceived loss of control or safety within a discriminatory environment [4].

4. Defensive Anger – Anger then emerges as a protective reaction. It replaces or masks the more painful feelings of hurt and fear, allowing the person to feel stronger and more in control. In psychological‑transactional terms, this represents the onset of a racket emotion—a learned defensive substitution that transforms vulnerability into strength [1][3].

5. Resentment and Rumination – When anger is not resolved or validated, it evolves into resentment. The individual replays the offending event mentally, seeking meaning and fairness. This cognitive rumination sustains emotional arousal and primes the person for deeper, more enduring emotions [5][6].

6. Hatred – If the cycle of anger and resentment continues without resolution or restitution, the emotion of hatred emerges. Hatred represents a fixed and enduring hostility toward the perceived perpetrator or the symbolic structures of oppression. It is consolidated anger—maintained by repeated experiences of invalidation and by the belief that justice will never be served [2][3][5].

7. Emotional Fatigue or Detachment – After prolonged hatred, emotional exhaustion, withdrawal, or emotional numbing may appear. The person may feel hopeless or detached, having expended significant energy in sustaining chronic anger and resentment. This stage can either perpetuate victim identity or prompt a conscious effort toward reconstruction of meaning and healing [4][6].

Summary Chain

Shock / Disbelief → Hurt / Humiliation → Fear / Anxiety → Anger → Resentment / Rumination → Hatred → Fatigue / Detachment

In essence, hatred is not the first emotion but rather the culmination of a sequential process: it arises when anger and resentment are chronically reinforced by perceived ongoing injustice and lack of acknowledgment [1][2][3][4][5][6].

Sources

1 Transactional Analysis Counseling in Action (Counseling in Action series) Fourth Edition by Ian Stewart (Author)


2 Beyond Games and Scripts Hardcover – January 1, 1976 by Eric Berne (Author)


3 Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. Paperback – August 27, 1996 by Eric Berne (Author)


4 The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do, Revised and Updated Paperback – February 24, 2009 by Judith Rich Harris (Author)


5 Born To Win: Transactional Analysis With Gestalt Experiments Paperback – Illustrated, August 30, 1996 by Muriel James (Author), Dorothy Jongeward (Author)


6 Genogram with Transactional Analysis in Coaching: A Road Map for Counseling & Coaching - An intuitive visual approach to unlock your clients' self-awareness to achieve personal & professional growth Paperback – December 16, 2023 by Claudia Musicco (Author

                   Treatment Plan

Below is a comprehensive integrated treatment plan synthesizing Transactional Analysis (TA), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Neuro‑Linguistic Programming (NLP) to guide an angry Black individual—who feels hatred and anger due to experiences of racism—toward more adaptive emotional functioning. The goal is to help them operate from the Adult Ego State, use cognitive rationality to appraise incidents of racism, and cultivate inner narratives of resilience and empowerment rather than hostility.


1. Transactional Analysis Framework

A. Ego State Awareness and Structure Work
The first therapeutic objective is to help the individual distinguish among the Parent, Adult, and Child ego states. Through structured dialogues and process mapping, the person learns to recognize when their Child ego is expressing pain through anger, and when the Parent ego is issuing internalized cultural injunctions like “Never be weak” or “Don’t trust their system.”

  • Technique: Ego‑state diagraming and functional fluency sessions to observe internal dialogues and external responses [1][3].
  • Goal: Increase the time spent in Adult ego processing—a state of rational appraisal, data‑based interpretation, and emotional regulation.

B. Script and Racket Analysis
Explore early‑life and community‑based injunctions that created the person’s current emotional “racket system,” especially the substitution of hurt and humiliation with anger and hatred. Therapist and client identify the script payoffs (e.g., “I am strong when I stay angry” or “If I hate them, I remain safe”) and rewrite these into Adult‑led cognitive narratives, such as “I can protect my dignity through clarity, not rage” [1][4][6].

C. Contract for Change
TA emphasizes conscious contracting. The therapeutic contract defines the transformation target:

“To move from anger and hatred to calm strength and rational power when confronting or recalling racism.”
This contract guides all interventions within and beyond sessions [3][5].


2. Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapy Integration

A. Cognitive Restructuring
Using CBT principles, the therapist helps the person identify automatic thoughts and core beliefs that link racial experiences to emotions of rage and despair.

  • Example reframes: “All people who treat me unfairly are racist” → “Some people act unfairly; I will analyze each case individually.”
  • Exercises: Thought records, ABC (Activating event–Belief–Consequence) worksheets [2].
  • Outcome: Development of balanced appraisals and emotional decoupling of current events from historic scripts [4].

B. Exposure to Reality Testing and Coping Skills
Client learns to tolerate distressing interactions without immediate emotional escalation. Techniques include behavioral experiments and guided imagery to simulate racial encounters while maintaining Adult ego control.

  • Focus on physiological regulation (breathing, body anchoring) to keep limbic arousal minimized.

C. Strengthening New Core Beliefs
Through homework and affirmations, the client internalizes beliefs such as:

  • “My worth is not defined by others’ prejudice.”
  • “I can respond to racism with strength, clarity, and calm.”
    These beliefs weaken the old anger‑hatred chain and substitute it with empowerment and agency [3][5].

3. Neuro‑Linguistic Programming Integration

A. Anchoring and State Management
NLP anchoring is used to install calm and assertive states linked to specific physical cues (pressing thumb and finger together, touching the wrist, etc.). During triggering situations, the client activates their calm anchor, shifting their physiological state from anger to Adult composure [6].

B. Reframing and Sub‑modality Work
The therapist guides the client to re‑imagine past racist experiences using NLP visual‑auditory re‑substitution: reducing image intensity, changing tone, or altering perspective from victimization to learning and control. These sensory adjustments weaken the emotional charge that sustains hatred [1][2].

C. Timeline and Future Pacing
Using timeline techniques, the client visualizes moving from past hurt to a future self characterized by rational assessment, resilience, and faith. This forward‑anchored identity becomes a cognitive‑emotional resource that interrupts the old emotion chain of anger and hatred.


4. Integrated Process of Change

StageDominant TechniqueTherapeutic Focus

Desired Outcome
Stage 1TA – Structural & script analysisAwareness of ego state triggers and racketsRecognition of anger/hatred as outdated survival emotions

Stage 2CBT – Cognitive restructuringReappraisal of racist events

Reduction of emotional over‑generalization
Stage 3NLP – State anchoring & reframingInstallation of calm response anchorsPhysiological and emotional control
Stage 4TA–CBT synthesisNew Adult‑driven belief integrationReplacement of old “I must hate to survive” payoff with “I can stay powerful and clear”

Stage 5MaintenanceRole‑play, homework, journalingConsolidation of Adult‑level functioning in real‑life interactions

5. Expected Emotional Transformation

Old Chain:

Shock → Hurt → Fear → Anger → Resentment → Hatred → Fatigue

New Chain (Therapeutic Re‑patterning):

Perception of Injustice → Brief Hurt → Adult Appraisal → Constructive Assertiveness → Calm Self‑Respect → Emotional Recovery

Through repeated cognitive, emotional, and behavioral retraining, the individual gains an Adult‑centered locus of control, enabling evaluation of racism without defaulting to destructive affect. The overarching outcome is a stable sense of personal power and social resilience grounded in rational self‑management rather than reactive hostility [1][3][5][6].


This integrated treatment pathway enables transformation from chronic anger and hatred to cognitive‑emotional maturity—promoting psychological liberation and constructive engagement with social realities through a firmly grounded Adult ego state.

Sources

1 Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy: A Systematic Individual and Social Psychiatry Hardcover – September 10, 2021 by Eric Berne (Author)


2 Born To Win: Transactional Analysis With Gestalt Experiments Paperback – Illustrated, August 30, 1996 by Muriel James (Author), Dorothy Jongeward (Author)


3 Transactional Analysis Counseling in Action (Counseling in Action series) Fourth Edition by Ian Stewart (Author)


4 Genogram with Transactional Analysis in Coaching: A Road Map for Counseling & Coaching - An intuitive visual approach to unlock your clients' self-awareness to achieve personal & professional growth Paperback – December 16, 2023 by Claudia Musicco (Author


5 Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis. Paperback – August 27, 1996 by Eric Berne (Author)


6 The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do, Revised and Updated Paperback – February 24, 2009 by Judith Rich Harris (Author)


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